It’s All about the Sacrifice It’s funny how the old saying “Opposites Attract” rings so true to so many married couples. As a matter of fact, in the beginning of a relationship, it can be the very thing that brings spark to the relationship. However, once married, after a short time, it can quickly become the thing that causes friction between you. Is that not the mystery of all time? I want to share with you a part of my relationship with my husband where we are total opposites. He is a late night person who loves staying up late and sleeping in as late as possible; I am an early to bed early to rise person. While this can actually be a blessing in our crazy life with kiddos, it also has its dilemmas; the main one us having time alone together. Whether it is just watching our favorite tv show, talking about the high and low of our day, or being intimate; this regularly brings friction between us. This has been an issue since we got married thirteen years ago! Boy am I thankful for Grace! Because believe me, it’s not been a fun dilemma to say the least! I will throw in here that when it comes to grace, my husband shows me way more than I deserve; way more. It has been a topic of conversation many times about how he doesn’t understand how I won’t sleep in if I am so tired. In his words, “It just doesn’t make sense!” I have tried to explain to him that, for one, sleeping in makes me feel worse. I don’t know why, but it does. Secondly, and I have told him, I LOVE mornings and the time alone time I get. I love my daily quiet time with Jesus; I cherish that! Not only does it give me time to pray, prepare, and fix my mind on Jesus, I have no INTERRUPTIONS!! WOO HOO (Insert a happy dance here) And every mom says, “AMEN!” Ladies, He just doesn’t get it. Don’t get me wrong, I love, very much, spending time with my husband and kids. I cherish those times. However, it is so important that we get time to ourselves to reflect and meditate on the things of God. If we don’t allow that, we can easily become scattered in every aspect of our lives. That certainly isn’t the life God intends for us.
Recently I had an opportunity to “sleep in” with my husband. I believe it was a Saturday morning with nothing going on; a rarity in itself. It was about ten o’clock when we trickled out of bed. Not long after, our daughter woke up and joined us out in our front room. She had put on a tv show and my husband was doing something else. I was determined to still get my quiet time regardless of sleeping late. I got my headphones, my bible and sat in my rocker next to our fireplace. I informed my husband and daughter that I was going to have my “quiet time” and would rather not be disturbed, at which they both looked at me like I was crazy. (I tend to get those looks from them often) I opened my devotional and turned on some music. “Ok”, I think to myself, “this might actually work”; Time with my husband, daughter, AND time with Jesus. It was about five minutes after I began that I noticed my husband trying to say something to me. FIVE MINUTES! How do I know it was FIVE minutes you ask? I was still on the FIRST song I was listening to on my phone. Yep, here come the interruptions that I interrupt my sleep to keep from. (Deep Breath inserted here) After all, I am supposed to be like Christ, right? I am really trying here, I promise. Although I don’t remember exactly what he wanted, I DO, however, remember that it was something that could CERTAINLY wait until I am finished. I am saying to myself in my mind, “Are you KIDDING ME?” And then it hit me! What a wonderful opportunity to show my husband what I have been trying to communicate to him for years; I need my quiet time. GOD MOMENT!! Ladies, I have to tell you, I think for the first time my husband finally understood what I hadn’t been able to communicate before. What a wonderful feeling! Although there are still many areas and will continue to be areas in my life when he doesn’t understand me, I believe that the Lord allowed this opportunity because He, too, desires quiet time with me. Ladies, God desires quiet time with you, too. What sacrifice do you need to make to have that quiet, one on one time with Him? To have time with the Lord, we must MAKE time for Him. Most of the time that will require some sort of sacrifice and for me that sacrifice is sleep. I promise you that when you do find it, you will walk away realizing that what you thought was a sacrifice wasn’t really a sacrifice after all.
Daily Quiet Time Mark 1:35 ~ NKJV “Now in the morning, having risen a long while before daylight, He went out and departed to a solitary place; and there He prayed.”